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Whether it's through our work, friends, or family, we all experience how difficult communication can be, yet communication (or “connection” even) has never been a required class in school. A good relationship needs this to flourish and build that beautiful future, especially if you want to end up with that fantasy of growing old and knowing even the smallest things about each other. I still remember how we would get coffee when we were with our family, and my grandma would put one sugar in my grandpa's coffee and start stirring it while he talked enthusiastically. Not because she had to, but because she knew that he was focussed on a fun conversation, and she knew exactly how he liked his coffee. I still, to this day, believe that he didn't even know how he drank his coffee himself.
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A fundament in a relationship starts with...
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Now, a good relationship is not about knowing how your partner wants their coffee; there is a more profound meaning behind this example: A true acceptance and connection with your partners' nature.
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How do you solve it?A good relationship starts with a good fundament. One thing I focus on to do this is a get a good idea of how well you already connect with each other. I do this with a 360-degree Social Style assessment. After this, we'll look deeper into the current friction and learn to understand it through tangible steps.
After a couple learns to connect and understand their friction, 90% of the hard work is done. The only thing left is to learn a concrete strategy on how to solve issues in the future when they arise without outside help. Once you connect, and you know how to get through challenges in the future, you have the strongest fundament you can have for a new start in your love life. This can be done in several ways, dependent on your preference:
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